
jamieaa asked: We have love, affection, compatible senses of humour, sexual chemistry and compatibility, common manners and a sense of decency, commitment and kindness.
We both love art and lovely things, like food, friendships and film.
But we have completely different central passions. Mine is academia. His is music. This brings with it a whole host of problems, like conflicting timetables, bad communication patterns (which is an effect of having a highly analytical, passionate talker like me, with a naturally introverted, dry logic, “systems” person) and different social groups.
I am getting to the point where decisions have to be made (it’s been nearly 4 years, and I am not getting any younger) and I am not sure whether marriage is viable. My married sister says that all marriages have periods of physical and/or emotional remoteness, while I am nervous to start a marriage without a common language and some more obvious overlaps. My boyfriend, meanwhile, thinks this is unhealthy (to be with someone too similar).
Any advice? Thank you.
I am not married, by the way, but trying to decide whether to.
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