In Westernized countries these days we tend to idealize love as a transcendental bond between two people.
Yet in some other countries, arranged marriages are the norm and even become desirable or ideal arrangements.
My thought or theory, if you will, is that love arises when it is expected. When two people who are expected to marry (i.e. arranged) and create a family, love arises between the two.
But when two people decide (of their own accord) to love and create a family, the love arises and maintains itself as long as the two see the existing alternatives to be worse than staying together.
Whether the initial binding is by their own choice (as in Westernized marriage) or by another’s (as in the former example), the love that may come of being is more a matter of commitment to the bond rather than the actual compatibility.
I suppose the question to you is: how immutable is the human spirit? To what extent are we susceptible to societal expectations about choice of one’s mate?
I’ve been “in love”… generally to the wrong people, which has ultimately been corrected…
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You’ve obviously never been in love.
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sorry but we need to choose a mate that has great DNA if we have that chosen for us and the person choosing made a good choice then great, if we get sold to the gross old farmer down the road for a cow not so great, some people make great decisions for a mate on their own and others pick absolute losers or what ever is left on the plate, neither is the best answer or the worst, “Love” has different meanings to different people this is why it is so complex
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I think since you say you’ve been in love, that’s all that is necessary to the theory in a sense. But I think your idea isn’t too radical at all and very realistic, love is something that is a bond. Isn’t love always associated with commitment and such?
Very interesting idea, you should build on that
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Wow, dude, you are diving too deep in you head today. Come up slowly or you will get the bends.
True love is a commitment to be the life-long loving companion of the person that you love; and a commitment to invest your life and energies into making them all that they can be in life.
“Arranged” or unarranged marriages work if this is the attitude and mindset of the married couple because that is how God made us to be. Marriage is not about what you can get out of it. Marriage is for what you can put into it in the life of the other person.
When you meet the right person, you just know. It is an emotional, mental, spiritual impact and impression that just lovingly and gently tells you that this is the one. And you feel part of the person and always want to be with them inorder to love them and just be their companion in the ups and downs of life.
Go rent and watch the movie, Love Comes Softly. Enough said.