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18 Responses to “Do you believe in love before marriage?”
Yes I do. That is part why I married my husband because I loved him, though not as much as I do now. My main reason for getting married was to start a family. My love for my husband grew over time, but I did love him a little before we got married.
Most times love relationships before marriage are failures. “Love” by itself is generally not a sin and considered normal. If you look at a guy (for a guy, a woman) you might find him nice and may feel affection towards him. This is normal. But where the problem lies is when people go ahead and start doing lot of stuff which are forbidden in Islam.
If you think that you love someone, and wish to marry that person, go ahead and try to know more about the person, not by talking to him or hanging out with him. Let your parents know and proceed. You know what you have to do next.
People too often look for romantic love before marriage which may be temporary, and self-benefiting, so the only way to know someone can love before marriage is the love which is selfless.Once a person has a love for humanity then that person will inspire to be a great spouse and parent. If you find a person who has a love for humanity, then you know this person already loves before marriage. Peace.
Love is too strong a feeling to have for someone before you’re married, you’d need to have been in sufficient contact with them to have developed a feeling of love towards them. E.g. talking to them often (so you start falling in love with their personality), seeing them often (so you start falling in love with their looks) etc etc. It should all happen after marriage. That’s the best time. ‘Cos before marriage, it can make you do haraam things. Love before marriage can be driven by lust and desires. Well that’s what I think. Love is so overrated anyway. And when people say there has to be something there, well it doesn’t necessarily have to be love. It can just be a simple appreciaton of that other person that you’re about to marry. It doesn’t have to be LURRVVEE. All that can develop during marriage, doesn’t have to be before. Like I said LURRVVEE is overrated and people confuse it with lust and desires blah blah.
People who get married for reasons other than being in love and think loves grows once you’re with a person are fooling themselves. Many times you simply grow into the habit of being with that person and although you may have emotional feelings for them it isn’t the same thing as true love. You most definitely can find true love if you wait for it and you will know it before the marriage takes place. When you find it, it will completely blow you away and you’ll realize that your idea of love was nothing compared to what true love really is.
yes.. i believe and i`m feeling it.. but i try to dont care about it!
i wanna get the love after marriage.,togather my nice wife..” love after marriage is better
Yes it is nice but prior love doesn’t have to be. Arranged marriages in all Middle East and far east countries are more successful with lowest divorces than the love marriages in the same countries. In the absence of love, when two persons consider marriage, they evaluate the possible good life between the two because of beliefs, compatibility of personalities, same economic level of two families, brought of girl and boy by the good well respected and educated parents etc. And these marriages are much more successful and they learn to love and their love keep getting stronger by age. If both persons have high level of sense of responsibility they stay together and care for each other for respect of parents and love of children and their future and consider too many othe aspects of life. Americans can’t understand but people of eastern cultures do understand my views and what I am talking about.
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October 31st, 2009 at 9:28 am
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Yes, how do you suppose one gets married without love.
One should love before getting married
November 2nd, 2009 at 11:09 am
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no, just desire and lust
November 5th, 2009 at 8:19 am
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yes..how can you marry someone if you don’t love them?
November 7th, 2009 at 8:02 am
love and marriage
yes
November 9th, 2009 at 2:09 am
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I think love should be present before getting married, and once the couple are married their love will go stronger…
November 12th, 2009 at 1:29 am
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yes. alot of people marry and expect to develop love while at it…thats why divorce rate is soaring high.
you should learn to love the person before you get married then you explore each other.
November 12th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
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no. its all crushes and lust
November 15th, 2009 at 5:14 pm
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Yes I do. That is part why I married my husband because I loved him, though not as much as I do now. My main reason for getting married was to start a family. My love for my husband grew over time, but I did love him a little before we got married.
November 16th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
Kansieo.com
yes i do
November 18th, 2009 at 3:03 pm
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Most times love relationships before marriage are failures. “Love” by itself is generally not a sin and considered normal. If you look at a guy (for a guy, a woman) you might find him nice and may feel affection towards him. This is normal. But where the problem lies is when people go ahead and start doing lot of stuff which are forbidden in Islam.
If you think that you love someone, and wish to marry that person, go ahead and try to know more about the person, not by talking to him or hanging out with him. Let your parents know and proceed. You know what you have to do next.
November 18th, 2009 at 10:19 pm
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yes…i do believe in love before marriage….
November 22nd, 2009 at 9:06 am
Create a video blog…instantly.
personally yes and no,cant decide!
November 22nd, 2009 at 5:33 pm
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People too often look for romantic love before marriage which may be temporary, and self-benefiting, so the only way to know someone can love before marriage is the love which is selfless.Once a person has a love for humanity then that person will inspire to be a great spouse and parent. If you find a person who has a love for humanity, then you know this person already loves before marriage. Peace.
November 23rd, 2009 at 4:29 am
Create a video blog
yes i believe it…
but i **** it..
love after marriage is better
November 23rd, 2009 at 7:55 pm
Kansieo.com
Love is too strong a feeling to have for someone before you’re married, you’d need to have been in sufficient contact with them to have developed a feeling of love towards them. E.g. talking to them often (so you start falling in love with their personality), seeing them often (so you start falling in love with their looks) etc etc. It should all happen after marriage. That’s the best time. ‘Cos before marriage, it can make you do haraam things. Love before marriage can be driven by lust and desires. Well that’s what I think. Love is so overrated anyway. And when people say there has to be something there, well it doesn’t necessarily have to be love. It can just be a simple appreciaton of that other person that you’re about to marry. It doesn’t have to be LURRVVEE. All that can develop during marriage, doesn’t have to be before. Like I said LURRVVEE is overrated and people confuse it with lust and desires blah blah.
November 25th, 2009 at 10:40 am
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People who get married for reasons other than being in love and think loves grows once you’re with a person are fooling themselves. Many times you simply grow into the habit of being with that person and although you may have emotional feelings for them it isn’t the same thing as true love. You most definitely can find true love if you wait for it and you will know it before the marriage takes place. When you find it, it will completely blow you away and you’ll realize that your idea of love was nothing compared to what true love really is.
November 28th, 2009 at 1:23 pm
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yes.. i believe and i`m feeling it.. but i try to dont care about it!
i wanna get the love after marriage.,togather my nice wife..” love after marriage is better
November 30th, 2009 at 1:27 am
Kansieo.com
Yes it is nice but prior love doesn’t have to be. Arranged marriages in all Middle East and far east countries are more successful with lowest divorces than the love marriages in the same countries. In the absence of love, when two persons consider marriage, they evaluate the possible good life between the two because of beliefs, compatibility of personalities, same economic level of two families, brought of girl and boy by the good well respected and educated parents etc. And these marriages are much more successful and they learn to love and their love keep getting stronger by age. If both persons have high level of sense of responsibility they stay together and care for each other for respect of parents and love of children and their future and consider too many othe aspects of life. Americans can’t understand but people of eastern cultures do understand my views and what I am talking about.