How do I convince my parents who are against cast for my love marriage?
Hi I am a Malaysian Hindu. All this while my parents, relatives, friends and myself has been looking for a suitable girl for me. But in all cases, either our horoscope doesn’t match or we don’t get attracted.
Finally I was proposed this girl by a friend and found that the horoscope matches well. I liked the girl when I first met her and she too liked me. When I show the proposal to my parents, the first question the ask is abt the cast! My father rejected the proposal immediately as they “seems” lower cast than us.
I am staying with my parents and I want to give them the best. But I am dead against cast as all human being on this earth are same. No upper class or lower class. Only Good people and Bad people.
I always stress that I prefer to marry a so called “lower” cast girl with good attitude rather than a “high” class girl with bad attitude. I dont want to hurt my parents feelings and also don’t want to loose her. Even I am not in love with her for now, I dont think I can get the same type in our cast. My age too catching up.
Pls advice me in this matter. Thanks.
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October 24th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
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Follow your heart . It may cause a problem at first . But, when they see how happy you are . I have a 17 year old son . We are white americans . I would not care if she was green , purple or orange. As long as she makes him happy . Keep in mind we are from the south and he loves a mixed race girl and she is beautiful and makes him happy . They do however get some flap about it . But, they are the ones who has to live their lives and no-one else . Follow your heart…Everyone, no matter the cast: The bloods color and richness is the same.
October 28th, 2009 at 1:06 am
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Wow, that ’s a hard one. I have a friend who planned these “accident” meetings of her chosen and her parents. They got to meet him on their own terms and realized on their own what a good catch he was. Even though they didn’t know him at first and disapproved of him too.
Do you have any aunties or uncles or professors, etc. that can speak on her behalf? Good luck!
October 31st, 2009 at 1:02 am
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My culture is so far removed from yours I think I may not be able to frame a suitable answer to your question but I will try. As followers of the path…Hindu… do you not believe that all life is connected? That all beings are and will be part of a greater life force. Do you not also believe that all beings are on an eternal cycle moving toward a union at some future point with the highest levels of this life force? If this is true then all life will one day reach a point of equality. So in fact if we were to look at time and eternity as it is, instead of from the single vantage point at which we exist now all beings are already equal in view of the fact that we all are heading toward the same unchangable destiny. Could we not also say that by treating this other cast in a more positive manner than society in general would have us do we are creating for ourselves a greater and more positive destiny at a more progressive rate?
Finally through all of this don’t your parents want you to be happy and fullfilled in this life and just a slave to convention and tradition?
November 1st, 2009 at 11:04 pm
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you are good man, stick to your principles
your parents are old school prejudice and are trying to force that on you
tell them that karma will come back to them one day, so stop repeating this caste prejudice lest they come back lower caste and are deprived of there true love!
November 5th, 2009 at 9:34 am
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They can not force you to marry. This freedom respected in every religion. It is important that you don’t go against their will. Your love, respect and humility to your parents have to gain their approval ( at list we see it in happy Indian movies
) It will take some time, which can be longer than writing our answers 