Ragazza Blusera asked:
My very best friend and I were always close and still are, and at one point he asked if we could be more than friends, but we lived in different countries at the time and I was afraid of ruining our closeness. But now I’m so sad because I’ve made a terrible mistake, he has a gf and they are closer than he and I are (even though he and I are still close).
I thought: The friendship is too special to ruin. But now I wonder if we had been more than friends, I might have found true and lasting love. it never ocurred to me that eventually he would want to share his life with someone and so would I and I never thought about how that would affect the friendship. I love him more than i’ve ever loved anyone and it makes me feel insignificant and lonely to see him loving and being romantic with another girl. I want a special person so badly but I know in my heart that no one else will ever be as special to me.
I feel so sad when i look around and I’m surrounded by happy girls who have bfs who love them and I feel so insignificant and sad. But, I don’t want to settle for someone just for the sake of being in a relationship, and no one could ever be as special to me as my best friend.
My very best friend and I were always close and still are, and at one point he asked if we could be more than friends, but we lived in different countries at the time and I was afraid of ruining our closeness. But now I’m so sad because I’ve made a terrible mistake, he has a gf and they are closer than he and I are (even though he and I are still close).
I thought: The friendship is too special to ruin. But now I wonder if we had been more than friends, I might have found true and lasting love. it never ocurred to me that eventually he would want to share his life with someone and so would I and I never thought about how that would affect the friendship. I love him more than i’ve ever loved anyone and it makes me feel insignificant and lonely to see him loving and being romantic with another girl. I want a special person so badly but I know in my heart that no one else will ever be as special to me.
I feel so sad when i look around and I’m surrounded by happy girls who have bfs who love them and I feel so insignificant and sad. But, I don’t want to settle for someone just for the sake of being in a relationship, and no one could ever be as special to me as my best friend.
How do you move on, when there’s nothing to move on to?
Why am I so stupid?
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Kansieo.com
NO! you can get him back!!!! you just have to work at it! dont give up! if you must give up, getting new friends and moving to a different part of the city would be good.
Tell him how you feel, maybe he has that girl like a backup.
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just ignore it. you’ll find some one soon.
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You lost ONE chance at love, that was not your ONLY chance. You will find love again.
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Don’t envy others. Waste of energy.
Don’t obess about the past and what you should have changed. Waste of time and energy.
How do you move on? You just do. Every day is another day to life your best life. If you are always living in the past of the future then you are not living now. I had a friend that was best friends with a guy. Never settled to be with him just for the sake of being with someone. She met the love of her life and married last summer. She was so glad she never settled. (She was 36 when she married)
Don’t fret girlie. Things are better than you think.
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everythink in life happens for a reason, and regretting things cant change the past, my advise to u is time is a grate healer, ull have ur heart broken more that once in your life u just have 2 take the rough with u smooth, keep ur chin up every cloud has a silver lining
BE STRONG!!
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From time to time, I still think of that “special someone” I
got involved with so many, many years ago, and wonder
how they are doing.
It may be of small comfort, but I’m here to tell you, be easy
on yourself, and him. People make mistakes in relation-
ships, we are only human.
Time heals the pain. The memories will still be there, but
the sharpness of the pain will diminish. I promise.
In the meantime, continue with your normal stuff. Keep busy,
do the stuff that makes you happy or comfortable, and
maybe don’t get into another relationship for a few months.
Take care, and by the way, thank you for sharing.
You made me think of that special someone I once knew
so long ago.
Brisbane Roo
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I feel your pain. I met someone years ago that really touched my life and I thought he was the only one for me…that never panned out. Now, I am happily married for 5 years and have a family with a man I met years later and with whom I am madly in love. Hey, if things don’t work out between him and his current girl, then go for it, but if he is happy with her, then begin to mend your heart and open yourself up to all the other love opportunities that you aren’t seeing while you are still at home pining away after this guy!
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True love is when that other truly loves you back. You’ll find that special someone soon, until then dont waste your life on a guy who isnt even thinking about you..move on, you only live life once.
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Where do you live?
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Move on. First: you don’t really know that what you had was ever going to blossom into “the one”. It could just have easily run its course and turned into another affair that you remember fondly, but might never have gone on.
Second: What you are proposing is WRONG!!! Think how you would feel if you were dating someone, and an old female friend came along claiming she wanted to try things out at a more serious level. He has moved on, and you should not go sniffing around his door, looking for leftovers. Why would you want her leftovers, anyway?
Third: There’s plenty more fish in the sea. Just quit messing around with the one you have already rejected.
Fourth: There’s always a sense of romance about the one that got away. Get over it.
Fifth, and I think most important: You are leaving the country in a few months. Why would you want to intentionally start up a new romance when you aren’t even going to be able to see it through? Lord knows, you’ll meet some wonderful, romantic handsome (lots of handsome men) guy in Spain, and get married there.
I’ve seen a lot of your recent questions, and I think that you need to quit living in the past, quit worrying about missed opportunities, and start looking more to the future. That’s where life is. Maybe if you try some affirmations when you are dressing. Repeat to yourself: The best is yet to come. Life is not over.
come up with your own positive statements.
You can’t keep dwelling on your past, and all the things you chose not to pursue. Keep in mind that all the good things you have might not be there if you had chosen differently. You have so many opportunities ahead of you, that you need to focus on them, and stop wasting so much energy on the stuff that you didn’t do,
Cherish the memory of the friendship you had with this guy. Become friends with the girl, because you might be able to bring your future husband into the friendship and make a ******** of it. (Or, you never know, he might be able to fix you up with a friend – someone not yet thought of, or not yet known – who will turn out to be “the one” that you once thought he might be). Optimism. Much more productive than what I’m seeing in your questions.
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A student ask a wizard, his teacher, what is love in relationship. The wizard ask him to go to pick the best apple from the apple farm. The rule is that he can only make 1 round in the trip, and can’t return. So the student went to the farm and return with nothing. Wizard ask why you pick no apple.
Student replied that he always thinking there is a better apple in front. When he see a very good apple, he always believe there is a better one in front. When he see the an average apple, he think it is worse than last one. Finally, he missed the best one he met, and not willing to pick up an average apple. Therefore, he return empty handed. The lesson here is that you will continue to meet various opportunity in life. Some you need to reach you and approach. Some with more effort. Some needs more observation to get a good one. It is always hard to find an optimum love in life. Even you found one, you may be comparing with someone else, who is excellent in other area. You may give up. Similarly, if you keep remembering the last one, you won’t pick the next one.
There are many route to take while making a trip in the apple farm. Some route will see more apple, while some will be less. Choose a route than brings you to more apple. Make additional effort to increase your exposure. Build up yourself so you become fitter to climb the tree, and walk a longer journey. If you missed the best apple, and close you eyes for the remaining journey, you will end the life with nothing.
The wizard’s rule applies to anything in life.
Hope the wizard teach you a simple lesson