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How long does one have to pay for mistakes that they make at 17. Is 23 years long enough. Do you have to cry for sixty years to honor your marriage vows?
Let me clear things up I didn’t make a mistake in my marriage at 17. I am referring to not being mature enough to get married in the first place at seventeen and our differences keep me in tears.
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How long does one have to pay for mistakes that they make at 17. Is 23 years long enough. Do you have to cry for sixty years to honor your marriage vows?
Let me clear things up I didn’t make a mistake in my marriage at 17. I am referring to not being mature enough to get married in the first place at seventeen and our differences keep me in tears.
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Time comes when enough is enough. You cannot continue to live in hell and he should not expect you to do so.
Time for him to let the issue drop and stay dropped. If he refuses, then it is time to go.
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If you’re miserable end it now.
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I think that is childish of him…teh past is teh past…marraige is about teh future…the past stays wehre it belongs. If he still lives in teh past it will be tough to move on into the future with this marraige
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OMG, life is way to short to be miserable! Don’t cry another day! Everyone makes mistakes. If the one who forgave you of the mistake, took you back, then it’s them who needs to let it drop. IF they stayed with you, then they need to drop it..
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If you two have exaulted all efforts on trying to fix your marriage then yes it is time to take step two. If you have honestly tried and sought marriage counceling and prayed then yes it is time to take step two.
If every argument is trivial and the arguments are getting worse and always ends in a fights despite counceling then yes it is time to take step two. I speak from experience. I have been married for 16 years. My husband and I have been through just about every thing that can break up a marriage. We sought God together and even though God has seen us through alot, we still have trials and we make it through every time. We lacked respect for eachother. If you pray, pray for God’s will in your life.I do not mean to offend you if you do not pray. Do not take this wrong. I wish you well. If it was not for God’s intervention I would not have our 3 children. May you find your true happiness.
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Oh hon, you deserve to be happy. You live one time. Marriage vows arent death sentences. You dont vow to sacrafice all your deepest human needs and desires to someone who doesnt reciprocate!
You are on that marriage elevator….you know how when you are on the top floor of a building and you could take the stairs but you say heck Ill wait on the elevator? Well you push the button and wait…it doesnt come and you think I could still take the stairs but it shoudl be here any moment so you wait another minute which turns into 3 min then 5 then finally after 8 min the elevator fianlly comes.
Well on marriage you think oh he will change he will get better I vowed to stay….so you wait a year or two then no change. So you think well I made it this far one more year wont hurt, maybe in one more year things will get better. And one year turns into 5 then 8 and then guess what…nothing changed but you are older, your options are fewer, your pain is deep.
Happiness is a choice.. Choose it. Your not in the l800′s when women were bound to emotionless abusive marriages. your a woman of the 2000′s the best time to be a woman cause we are free…free to be free to love free to choose.
good luck.
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Oh honey…We all make mistakes…It’s part of life and part of growing up and getting to know who we are..
Listen..God knows our hearts. And He is the only one who has the power to judge us. If you are miserable in your relationship, and have tried to make things better but have been unable to because your husband refuses to accept his share, then it’s time to consider leaving.
God doesn’t want us to live unhappy lives…He is love and He is peace!
Please consider making an appointment with your spiritual leader or pastor. Yes, God wants us to try to make our marriage work out…But He also knows it takes “two to tango”, and you cannot do it by yourself.
In cases of abuse or cheating, I don’t think God is unhappy with us if we decide to leave in order to protect ourselves and our kids.
Good luck. Take care of yourself. See if you can go to therapy or counseling, so you can vent and see things from a different perspective. It helps to talk to other people and to get fresh insight.
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Once you walk out the door and realize what you have been missing all these years you are gonna be so pissed!! If you don’t want to cook, don’t have to. Don’t want to clean? Don’t have to:D Don’t have the energy to emotionally cater to him? Don’t have to! You get to watch t.v., you get to have friends, you get to read a book, you get to do anything YOU want to do. Yeah!!! I love my life. Go, have a blast, your only regret will be that you waited so long.
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One is far more likely to honor their marriage vows when children are involved if you ask me. If it comes to the point where children are grown up and its down to you and your man then I would say…a breaking point would be when you start putting yourself first over your husband. When his welfare comes second and there is no more effort on your part to make their life happier or better.
When all hope is lost and leaving makes you feel better than staying and when you are solid and strong enough to face the world on your own with no fear of doing just that.
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Start having affairs. We all think about it and many of us do. Just no one admits it here on this site.
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Feel miserable in a marriage means enough is enough.
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That is hard and sad. I hope it isn’t true, especially the crying. I guess you just have to determine what will make you happiest. Then do it, but, you have to really be sure and don’t be quick.