If two people find love at the tender ages of 15 and 17, can that same love lead to a successful marriage?
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I am now 17 years old, and i fell in love with a wonderful person at the ripe age of 15. It has been only two years since, and in about 5 months i will be preparing to leave for college. I know at this age life is supposed to be a growing period filled with new, and empowering experiences. Independence, maturity, and decisions that will effect my future forever are going to be knocking at my door step. However there is no one I’d rather spend my life with. I believe our love can last forever. Marriage is a giant decision. Am I too young to be able to experience, enjoy, and succeed in the adventurous world of marriage?
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I am now 17 years old, and i fell in love with a wonderful person at the ripe age of 15. It has been only two years since, and in about 5 months i will be preparing to leave for college. I know at this age life is supposed to be a growing period filled with new, and empowering experiences. Independence, maturity, and decisions that will effect my future forever are going to be knocking at my door step. However there is no one I’d rather spend my life with. I believe our love can last forever. Marriage is a giant decision. Am I too young to be able to experience, enjoy, and succeed in the adventurous world of marriage?
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July 16th, 2009 at 5:45 am
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nonono if you love the person enough than maybe you can marry him
do not get your hopes down
July 18th, 2009 at 5:40 am
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Of course it does not matter by age or college or anything but first you should wait till you gradute but he can be your bf (boyfriend)
July 18th, 2009 at 10:11 pm
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Its not likely!! Remember u said the “tender ages”. Please go to college and enjoy life!!!!!!!!!!
July 20th, 2009 at 11:47 pm
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no. its not too young just its kind hard. i mean you dont know you. how can you let him know what you disliek and like or how can you be ok with anything he does wrong or he be ok with your faults if its always changing? it is very hard but possible
July 23rd, 2009 at 3:40 pm
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You are too young for marriage. College is going to expose you to so many new experiences and people.
Don’t get into something you may regret later. If you’re meant to be with this current person, you will be.
July 26th, 2009 at 7:23 am
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yes it can be a sucessful marrige because my aunt and uncle are 10 yrs apart and they hav three kids, a huge house that THEY redecerated and they are working on their 4th kid. . .they both lov each other so maybe but hopefully. . .cause everyone is different. . .it will work out between these teens. . .wat i call this true lov is. . .YUNG lov. . .it is so cute cause they both probibly REALLY lov each other
July 26th, 2009 at 9:05 pm
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OK this is serious ….I met my husband at the age of 15 also….we are now married , I only dated him..no one eles….If I could do it over again ..I would date more guys 1st , If he’s the one for you at least you can experience more before settling down with him for the rest of your life…believe me you will always wonder if there is someone eles out there …You must date more and have fun your so young to just settle .. from 1st hand experience.
July 27th, 2009 at 10:44 am
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well….. mine did!!
July 28th, 2009 at 2:59 am
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You shouldn’t rush things. If your love is as powerful as you say it is then it will sustain time. both of you should finish your education, grow, mature and find some independence in yourself. In a few years or so, if you are still both togeth and as happy then go for it, but right now if you marry you are hitting a very hard period in your life and are setting yourself up to fail. Love can withstand time, so give yourselfs a little time to growup together or find out it really wasn’t meant to be. Good luck
July 30th, 2009 at 7:12 pm
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If you’re contemplating marriage right now, I would suggest against it. If you honestly think you can last, then marriage isn’t necessary right now. If it’s really true love, then you guys can wait until after you graduate.
My uncle and aunt met when they were in third grade. They married and are still happily married today. They only broke up once during high school.
My mom and dad met when they were in the seventh and eighth grade. They are still happily married after almost 25 years of marriage.
Going without marriage won’t hamper your being together if it was really meant to be. If anything, it might challenge your chances of staying together, simply because when you get frustrated with each other, you’ll feel anchored down and not able to breathe.
Wish you the best!
ps- also make sure that this isn’t puppy love, ’cause that type of love can sure seem real.
August 2nd, 2009 at 4:04 pm
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Maybe, but the odds are against it.
It’s a simple fact that your brain doesn’t even finish physically developing until about age 23 for men, about age 21 for women….and even then, most people younger than 25 do not really have a solid grasp of “who they are”.
The last part of the brain to fully form is the part that manages “impulse control”.
Statistically, the older you are when you marry, the better the chances of it lasting.
This doesn’t mean you are not the exception…but waiting would be best. You will both change over the next few years, so predicting how you will get along is virtually impossible to do.
August 2nd, 2009 at 10:02 pm
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50 years ago; you could have pulled it off without a hitch. Today’s society will not allow you to.
Too many expectations, too much to see and do before you settle down with one person.
He is only 15; I guarantee you that men do not emotionally develop as quickly as women do.
You go on and go to college. It is going to open up a completely new world for you. Doors to open at every turn. Don’t build this guy up sweetie.
Enjoy your youth before you say “I do” and make a comittment for the rest of your life…….”until death do you part.” That is a long, long time.
August 4th, 2009 at 11:13 pm
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My wife was 17 and I was just 16 when I asked her to the junior prom. I was kind of pushed into it with friends. They knew I liked her from a distance and, they also knew she liked me from a distance. I finally had the neve to ask her, that was in 1966, It’s been about 48 years now, two tours in ‘Nam, five kids and fifteen grand kids, three greats.
No: It wasn’t all downhill, there were a lot of bumpy spots. We even seperated once, for a few months. She was around the corner a few times. We always found our way back though, that was the way it was, we’re happy together and, will be together for life I know that know and that’s what counts. All the kids look at us and use us as a discription for marraige. 48 years ago this Jan.
August 6th, 2009 at 6:08 am
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From my expirence, I was at that point in time, but he was heading to the Navy. I told him that I will wait for him. Gave up ideas to go to college. We were going to get married and stuff. Things changed over the time he was gone. I felt lonely and rely on friends and family. We grew apart, not by force but by time. It was natural. I never got to go to college and make something of myself , now I’m doing that plus I have a good hubby with one 2 year old and a new addition only 4 months away. My life is better this way, I grew up and have tons of memories with my family. If I did stay with him, I would be living with his mom at her place and not be happy . He changed and I did, but everyone is different. If you want a great future if she or he is in it, provide a good financial life plus go places and live life with no worries. That means you only get to be young for a while. Besdies, if that person cares and is able to except what might change and be willing to focus 100 percent you might have a chance. Just give it up for puppy love though.
August 7th, 2009 at 9:51 pm
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My best friend met her future husband at 15 (he was a couple years older). After she finished high school, she attended college, and then transferred to the same college he was at. Five years after her college graduation, they got married, and just had a baby last year. They have a strong and healthy relationship.
So yes, your young love can DEFINITELY lead to marriage. However, that does NOT mean you should get married now, or the second you turn 18. You should both go and explore what the world has to offer. You will both change a great deal over the next five years, just as you have changed a great deal of the PAST five years. This is a great opportunity to see if you can learn to change together, and see how you face short-term separations and difficulties. Consider the next few years as a training ground for your marriage.
You sound very mature, so continue to give this matter a great deal of thought. Perhaps you both could exchange promise rings, and seek pre-marital counseling to discover what areas you are strong in and what areas will present difficulties for you.
good luck and congratulations!
August 9th, 2009 at 11:09 pm
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Personally I think people change alot around the 21-25 age group. I know several relationships (including my parents) where they were very young when the got together. My parents grew in separate directions as they got older and were divorced around the 26 year old mark. I’m not saying it won’t work but the odds are against you. I do hope you succeed though!
August 11th, 2009 at 2:54 am
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Sometimes, high school relationships leads to marriage but it is rare. Go to college and think about marriage later.
August 13th, 2009 at 11:14 pm
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I don’t want to discourage you but it’s really not likely that the marriage would last. Most 15 and 17 year olds don’t really even know what love is and definitely don’t take marriage seriously enough, that’s why so many end in divorce. But enough of the negativity, I got married at 17 and we’re still happy and still devoted to our marriage. My point is that yeah it can work but the odds are against you.
August 15th, 2009 at 2:31 pm
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From my experience. I got married at the age of 17. He was 19. We dated for three years before we got married. We separated when I was 23. We found out that we were not done growing up and explore and do what normal teenagers do. We ended up growing apart. Really think what you want to do. I had to grow up pretty fast. Enjoy life and if he is the one for you he will stick by you no matter what. Don’t feel that by not marring him you will lose him if you leave for college.
August 18th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
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Not really. Understand that the wedding is one day but the marriage takes long hard stressful years to manage.
August 21st, 2009 at 2:56 pm
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i married really young and over the past 11 years we’ve been through some really hard stuff due to the changes “we” (and everyone goes through) we’ve separated and then united again and its been a hard rough road. Now we are older we seem to be getting along great, but i would always recommend that you do the things you need to do before you settle down, i have so many things i didn’t do or see, and now I’ll have to wait until we pay off all our commitments, raise the kids etc before i can do them….marriage is forever, so if you’re both truly in love, it will stand the test of time, remain bf and gf and enjoy life before considering marriage and all the commitments it involves.
August 23rd, 2009 at 3:02 pm
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not since the early 1900″s
August 24th, 2009 at 4:42 am
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yes but the odds are very much against it.
Almost worked for my brother. He did marry his high school sweet heart. She decided she did not love him any more after 8 years of marriage and dating since they were around 16.
My aunt is still happily married to my aunt.
Realistically, people change alot at that age. Also things happen like going away to school etc, etc. At your age, you are still learning about yourself and so is your partner.
I’d say, enjoy your relationship but don’t think about marriage yet. Get to know that person and yourself. See what happens.
Good luck
August 27th, 2009 at 9:30 am
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For the record, I was engaged at 16 and married a week after my 18th b-day, he was 25 when we married. Two years later and going strong, some cases are so unique, only you two can make it work, You really have to keep in mind that at the end of the day, it’s just you two left, and you need to mesh in every way for a marriage to work…oh, and learn to compromise and forgive….you are not too young, but only you can decide if you are up for the job, and believe me, it’s hard work to have a happy, peaceful marriage through rough times or every time for that matter….good luck in your decision!
August 28th, 2009 at 11:18 pm
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Yes, I think that if two people find love at a tender young age it can lead to a successful marriage. I don’t think you should get married now though. Experience other people and enjoy your life. When you get married you will be tied down forever! If it’s really love then it will stand the test of time. Good luck!
August 29th, 2009 at 3:01 am
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My parents did. They’re totally happy and in love to this day. 15 and 16.
August 31st, 2009 at 1:47 pm
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It can happen, but with the stress college coursework, trying to set up a household and be newly weds all at the same time is very difficult. You and your significant other might want to talk to your pastor or find a therapist that specializes in premarriage counseling, which will help you learn if getting married now would be a good thing, or if waiting is better.
September 3rd, 2009 at 9:17 pm
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Marriage is definitely an adventure, full of ups and downs. it’s also a huge step to take, especially at a young age. Go to school, experience life. You don’t have to break up with him, you can still be together throughout college. You will learn so many wonderful things there. don’t let it go to waste. If you want your relationship to work, you’ll have to do the work to make it last. If something happens to show you that something else is of more importance and you have to end it, that’s ok too.
Really, the decision does NOT have to be made today, this week, or before you go away to school. All that you should do is wait until you are really ready. graduate, get a job, then look at marriage. This is not something you have to worry about now. Plus, the fact that you are even asking tells me your aren’t ready… this is something that you will just know.
September 6th, 2009 at 10:12 pm
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Honey, maturity comes with age. Although you have a very good head on your shoulders and you seem intelligent, a teenager doesn’t have the mental capacity to make such life long descisions at this point in your life. You have your whole life in ahead of you and in 5 years your desires may change. You can be together for years before getting married and then if you still know that hes the one then by all means. I think it could work out and you could be together forever, but I wouldnt rush into marriage if I were you. Go out and experience life while you can, you only have one chance to do it right. Good luck in all you do and Happy Holidays
September 8th, 2009 at 4:50 am
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If you think it will last forever, then why worry about going away to college?
Certainly if your love is that strong, it can handle you being away for a while. After all, you will have a lifetime to share, yes? What is a few years of periods of separation?
If he loves you that much he will want you to go away to college and get an education, so your lives together will be more fulfilling.