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If you really love each other, is compatibility all that important?

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By compatibility, I mean a preponderance of common interests.

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16 Responses to 'If you really love each other, is compatibility all that important?'

Bloody Kisses - March 9th, 2008 at 5:16 am
Yes! You may love each other just fine, but if you have nothing in common, you have nothing to hold you together for the long haul.
DEPRESSED aka thumbs up fairy™ - March 10th, 2008 at 3:19 pm
Well me and Fireball226 love each other to bits, so no!! all that matters is our strong love.
anon - March 13th, 2008 at 11:15 pm
Absolutely.
Vicarious Cynic - March 17th, 2008 at 3:09 am
Aunt Carol under your skin today? I wish you both the best.

To answer – I think its fair to say that my wife and I don’t have preponderance of common interests. She loves her rotary meetings, I like poking around at the hippie craft market. She likes movies, I like music. We are in love – and we are learning to plan time together, (sometimes she picks, sometimes I pick, sometimes we pick). We have also learned to plan time independantly. This felt weird at the start, but has grown into a piece of our marriage that is mutually valued.
Betty Boop Oop A Doop - March 17th, 2008 at 2:25 pm
Yes I don’t care how much I love a harry ape I’m just not compatible with him.
Dust in the Wind - March 18th, 2008 at 12:59 am
Maybe not when you are 20, or 30, or 40, but when those 50s come around…you better have a lot of love, because things change.

The Ol’ Hippie Jesus Freak
Grace, Peace and Love in Christ
Peg
? Pangel ? - March 20th, 2008 at 3:45 pm
my husband and I are like chalk and cheese
seriously different
but we have some interesting conversations
and married 6 years now
jonjon418 - March 21st, 2008 at 8:15 am
Depends on the personalities, I think.

You can have a lot in common with somebody, interest-wise, and still not get along. Meanwhile you might have nothing in common with somebody else and get on fine. It’s mainly whether your personalities interest each other.

That said, it’s not too often that you see, say, Christian fundies hooked up with militant atheists. But I DO think that sometimes even extreme antagonisms can evolve into friendships and relationships. It’s notorious that guys often become friends after getting in fistfights. Your enemy is at least interested in you! You can probably turn him or her into an ally a lot easier than you could somebody who’s totally indifferent to you. Or, maybe you’ll just get slapped with a restraining order.
blessedrobert - March 21st, 2008 at 9:14 am
personality compatiblity is vital and lively enjoyable marriage. GOD accept marriage by LAW(parent choose the mate..couple eventually love each other or tolerate each other..yet..love is there..sometime there is a SOUL MATCH..sometime/oftentime..not a soul match..UNLESS one wait on GOD..for that soul match). we marry by free will..or marriage by sex partner skill.and find..personality don’t match..or marry because..oops..baby on the way..it varies by culture as well each person inner code. married till death do we part..ect.
Mike - March 21st, 2008 at 5:40 pm
Yes, If you like death Metal and she likes country…there is going to be a fight over the radio on trips…
CMO - March 23rd, 2008 at 3:23 am
No. Common interests provide only temporary enjoyment of one another. Interests change. The only true constant is love, with the blessing and true love of Christ. That is what bonds two together, in the covenant of marriage. Without this love, the marriage is just a contract upheld by rights and duties.
leslie - March 24th, 2008 at 8:28 am
Yes, I think compatibility is important. I think common interests bring us closer together through another avenue to enjoy each others company and offer more topics of conversation each other enjoys. I also think that interests outside of the relationship on an individual level are important for self growth, too. After all, I don’t think my husband would enjoy making jewelry with me…..although he’s been a good sport to let me measure the length of a necklace on him a time or two, lol.
Printninja - March 24th, 2008 at 7:30 pm
People that don’t grow together, grow apart.

It also helps if you find each other hot.
REALLY - March 27th, 2008 at 2:49 pm
the world may never know. we have a few things in common that is important. such as sense of humor, honesty, and we both love dancing.
fluffytwin - March 27th, 2008 at 8:10 pm
Yes it is…unfortunately love does not conquer all.

You can deeply love someone but be completely unable to live with them because of total lack of compatibility.

Intitally both can compromise a lot for the love of each other but if too much compromise is necessary soon some body actually has to become someone they are not and no one can deny who they truly are indefinitely so the relationship breaks down despite the love.
Contemplative Chanteuse - March 28th, 2008 at 7:19 pm
Only if you really need to do anything together.

I’ve read that dating couples should have to work on a project together. Like tiling a floor. Love is wonderful, but marriage is a joint effort at life. I think you have to have some commonality and compatibility – or at the very least _coordination_ to make it work.

And I guess it depends on what you mean by love as well. The loving, attracted feeling won’t last in the face of a child with a life-threatening illness which you and your mate cannot agree how to handle.

Even if you mean agape love, in the face of life events that call for making quick decisions, if you’re not compatible, it’s hard to make them – even when you act in what you believe to be the other person’s best interests.

I don’t think a couple has to do everything together. Jim and I have different hobbies, and we have some hobbies we pursue together. We have some separate friends, and we have some friends in common.

We think very differently, though. So there are times when we’ve had to learn to give each other a fair measure of grace in working on projects together. We don’t approach much of anything from the same perspective.

The bad part about that is that we never start in agreement. The good part of it is that by the time we’ve discussed it, we have a fairly thorough perspective. ;o)