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20 Responses to 'marriage?????????????'

1. Dan - April 16th, 2008 at 3:24 pm

   I fought Marriage for a long time before i got married, i had trust issues with the ex. I dated this wife 4 years before i married her and lived together for 3 of those years.

   I am older, I am 37, so i may be jaded a bit.

   Although i am glad i did it, it was really important to her

2. Lv Dr. 4U - April 16th, 2008 at 7:45 pm

   I really never thought I would get married or have kids, at one time I didn’t really consider it and didn’t want it! (Married 2 kids)

3. aa889d - April 17th, 2008 at 6:02 am

   Before I got married – I thought it was great. Even dated and lived with my wife for almost 4 years before we got married.

   12 years into it and 2 kids later ….. Are you kidding?

   If I’d known it would be like this – I would have NEVER stepped into this man trap !!

4. morena - April 17th, 2008 at 11:26 am

   Its the best chose I have ever made..

5. NickN - April 17th, 2008 at 7:04 pm

   I knew it would be a one time thing with the right person. It was. It’s over. Not gonna happen again EVER.

6. rkhuot - April 18th, 2008 at 9:52 pm

   it is good for the right person if you have kid’s then you should if you don’t why

7. Chal - April 19th, 2008 at 9:23 am

   Men are great until you marry them, then they either want to control everything you do, or they still want to be single and run around with the boys. Once the courting stops, they seem to change . . . . . . .

8. faith23 - April 20th, 2008 at 12:47 am

   I’m married. I wanted to fight the statistics of divorce, so I thought that the older you were wheny you get married, the lower the divorce rate would be . I married at 33. I just got married 4 months ago.

   Even though I love my husband and he loves me, I sometimes wonder how marriages survive even past 10 years…..

9. staceydv4 - April 21st, 2008 at 10:30 pm

   i love bein married.. i never thought i would but i do

10. Kathleen G - April 24th, 2008 at 8:41 pm

    my views on marriage before I was married were the typical views a young girl has. The husband coming home to you after a long day. sharing your life together, having children.
    Picturing yourself on Christmas morning with him and your children, taking your child to the first day of school, having a little boy who is the image of him, but my hot headed temper.
    I just didn’t imaging all of the hard work that comes with maintaining this fantasy. And there is no way of knowing what goes into it, until your there, marriage for me is everything I thought it would be, you learn that it takes 2 to make it work, and run smoothly It doesn’t always! It is how you recover from the bumps in the road. I have been married for 11yrs, I am 36yrs old, we have 4 children.

11. I<3 Me - April 25th, 2008 at 1:33 am

    My views on marriage was a fairy tale happy ending story, I now know that marriage isn’t as simple as I once thought. It takes plenty of dedication, strength and hard work to keep a happy marriage.

12. gunslingerjosey - April 25th, 2008 at 11:15 am

    I think right now in this country and abroad, marriage & having children is a scary proposition.

    Today, the divorce rate is so high due to no-fault divorce. If you have kids, for women – that means they hold all the cards. That’s why women say, “Oh, make sure you’re married!”

    A man today has to realize that, love and “the dream” aside, the risks to men/fathers far outweigh the rewards. Check the source – some great books on just this issue.

    Family court is tilted heavily in favor of women/mothers. Moms have all the rights, get all the benefits, and dad is too often relegated to a visitor in his children’s lives while being an ATM machine fro mom. He can lose half (or more) of the cash, cars, house, investments, etc… and worse – the children.

    Seriously, if I had known then what I know now about how the divorce machine sucks in fathers, grinds them up, and spits them out so unceremoniously, I’d have had a vasectomy at 18 (and I love children – have two of my own).

    With no-fault divorce (the biggest killer of marriage and families) you don’t need an excuse anymore to get a divorce. You just don’t have to feel like being married anymore – and with that reality comes the truth – a marriage is no longer a contract, so what’s the point except to put yourself and your future at risk when someone “doesn’t feel like it anymore?” With women (who have children) initiating almost 3/4 of divorces today (most men don’t even see it coming), it’s the smart man who chooses not to get married and certainly not have children… and that’s a shame.

13. Owen E - April 26th, 2008 at 11:39 am

    I knew that one day I would want a wife someone to spend my life with kids did not matter to me just having a woman in my life would be great.

    That was almost 10yrs ago now that I found my soulmate man it is great wouldn’t change a thing. Marriage is something different for everyone some want it or know they want it and some just run from it.

    I guess you could say I was a run towards it.

14. S?ah??bah . - April 29th, 2008 at 5:38 am

    Unmarried
    Marriage is a wonderful thing!. Prophet Muhammad said Marriage is not a union of a man and a woman, it is a union of 2 families. So in essence, Marriages are meant to provide companionship as well as emotional and financial support if required (in an ideal Muslim family). I think ppl should get married at an early age. A lot of our ppl wait too long to get married and end up living a boring life.
    I’m planning on getting married as soon as im done with college and start working. Pray for me sis

15. K OOO - April 30th, 2008 at 7:36 pm

    I was young and dumb. I thought the fairy tale was real. I found out just like everyone else except the idiots that lie to themselves that marriage is a lie!!!

16. NoWomanNoCry - May 4th, 2008 at 1:28 am

    Before i got married i though marriage was going to be easy…I mean if 2 ppl love each other how hard can it be to stay married right? well i was wrong marriage is more then love, sure you can love someone more then anything. but do you agree on the big things in life? do you see yourself wanting the same things down the road? there is alot that makes up a marriage. sure love is a huge part but i think to make a marriage work you need more then just love. cause i feel like you can love someone but still disagree about huge things in life.

17. fred b - May 6th, 2008 at 1:32 pm

    positive..and they still are.

18. Gemini Jen who loves all! - May 8th, 2008 at 2:36 am

    Try thinking about marriage like this;

    How many of your relatives do you really like? You have to count every person in your entire family. How often do you see them? How many of them would you chose to live with FOREVER?Or atleast until Tuesday.

    Your spouse is YOUR choice, make it very very wisely!

    I’ve learned my lesson!LOL

19. Spoonfull of Sugar - May 9th, 2008 at 3:16 am

    I am unmarried and see no advantage to marriage except of course recieving you spouses health care benefits.
    There is nothing else that the legal bind of marriage can provide you with that you cannot get without it.

20. Butterfly - May 11th, 2008 at 10:59 pm

    Since I was 13 years old what I wanted most out of life was to be a wife and mother. I was not happy when I married my first husband because I didn’t love him. I cared about him and he was a wonderful man, but there was no love on my part. When I married my 2nd husband a few months ago it was one of the happiest days of my life because he was my true love and soul mate. I would never recommend that anyone marry unless they are truly 100% in love with the other person because no matter how compatible you might be if there is not love it will only lead to unhappiness.

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