Comments on: marriage?????????????

By: Butterfly

Butterfly — Sun, 11 May 2008 22:59:26 +0000

Since I was 13 years old what I wanted most out of life was to be a wife and mother. I was not happy when I married my first husband because I didn’t love him. I cared about him and he was a wonderful man, but there was no love on my part. When I married my 2nd husband a few months ago it was one of the happiest days of my life because he was my true love and soul mate. I would never recommend that anyone marry unless they are truly 100% in love with the other person because no matter how compatible you might be if there is not love it will only lead to unhappiness.

By: Spoonfull of Sugar

Spoonfull of Sugar — Fri, 09 May 2008 03:16:33 +0000

I am unmarried and see no advantage to marriage except of course recieving you spouses health care benefits.
There is nothing else that the legal bind of marriage can provide you with that you cannot get without it.

By: Gemini Jen who loves all!

Gemini Jen who loves all! — Thu, 08 May 2008 02:36:53 +0000

Try thinking about marriage like this;

How many of your relatives do you really like? You have to count every person in your entire family. How often do you see them? How many of them would you chose to live with FOREVER?Or atleast until Tuesday.

Your spouse is YOUR choice, make it very very wisely!

I’ve learned my lesson!LOL

By: fred b

fred b — Tue, 06 May 2008 13:32:06 +0000

positive..and they still are.

By: NoWomanNoCry

NoWomanNoCry — Sun, 04 May 2008 01:28:32 +0000

Before i got married i though marriage was going to be easy…I mean if 2 ppl love each other how hard can it be to stay married right? well i was wrong marriage is more then love, sure you can love someone more then anything. but do you agree on the big things in life? do you see yourself wanting the same things down the road? there is alot that makes up a marriage. sure love is a huge part but i think to make a marriage work you need more then just love. cause i feel like you can love someone but still disagree about huge things in life.

By: K OOO

K OOO — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:36:08 +0000

I was young and dumb. I thought the fairy tale was real. I found out just like everyone else except the idiots that lie to themselves that marriage is a lie!!!

By: S?ah??bah .

S?ah??bah . — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 05:38:12 +0000

Unmarried
Marriage is a wonderful thing!. Prophet Muhammad said Marriage is not a union of a man and a woman, it is a union of 2 families. So in essence, Marriages are meant to provide companionship as well as emotional and financial support if required (in an ideal Muslim family). I think ppl should get married at an early age. A lot of our ppl wait too long to get married and end up living a boring life.
I’m planning on getting married as soon as im done with college and start working. Pray for me sis

By: Owen E

Owen E — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 11:39:37 +0000

I knew that one day I would want a wife someone to spend my life with kids did not matter to me just having a woman in my life would be great.

That was almost 10yrs ago now that I found my soulmate man it is great wouldn’t change a thing. Marriage is something different for everyone some want it or know they want it and some just run from it.

I guess you could say I was a run towards it.

By: gunslingerjosey

gunslingerjosey — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 11:15:43 +0000

I think right now in this country and abroad, marriage & having children is a scary proposition.

Today, the divorce rate is so high due to no-fault divorce. If you have kids, for women – that means they hold all the cards. That’s why women say, “Oh, make sure you’re married!”

A man today has to realize that, love and “the dream” aside, the risks to men/fathers far outweigh the rewards. Check the source – some great books on just this issue.

Family court is tilted heavily in favor of women/mothers. Moms have all the rights, get all the benefits, and dad is too often relegated to a visitor in his children’s lives while being an ATM machine fro mom. He can lose half (or more) of the cash, cars, house, investments, etc… and worse – the children.

Seriously, if I had known then what I know now about how the divorce machine sucks in fathers, grinds them up, and spits them out so unceremoniously, I’d have had a vasectomy at 18 (and I love children – have two of my own).

With no-fault divorce (the biggest killer of marriage and families) you don’t need an excuse anymore to get a divorce. You just don’t have to feel like being married anymore – and with that reality comes the truth – a marriage is no longer a contract, so what’s the point except to put yourself and your future at risk when someone “doesn’t feel like it anymore?” With women (who have children) initiating almost 3/4 of divorces today (most men don’t even see it coming), it’s the smart man who chooses not to get married and certainly not have children… and that’s a shame.

By: I<3 Me

Fri, 25 Apr 2008 01:33:26 +0000

My views on marriage was a fairy tale happy ending story, I now know that marriage isn’t as simple as I once thought. It takes plenty of dedication, strength and hard work to keep a happy marriage.