Teenage ‘love’: Attraction or compatibility?

JulietteK21 asked:


I believe teenage ‘love‘ for the most part is pure attraction, and less compatibility. Now, I may be wrong. And I don’t mean to generalize, but for the most part…teenagers can’t understand the ‘compatibility’ that goes along with a relationship. They would still need to mature and in my opinion, live with the person in order to relize the basis of love. That’s just me though…I just think that’s logical.

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10 Responses to 'Teenage ‘love’: Attraction or compatibility?'

1. prash - January 4th, 2008 at 5:21 am

   teenage love is mostly attraction…it is just infactuation(not for all)… your first opinion is correct..

2. shizzle ?? - January 4th, 2008 at 8:31 am

   And your point is?

3. Lorraine - January 5th, 2008 at 8:56 pm

   I do believe this, But it is true that some people just fall in love with someone in their teens and the next thing you know, thay are out of school and married. But i believe most is just pure attraction.

4. Courtt™ - January 6th, 2008 at 5:02 pm

   I am not in love right now, but I do know that I am falling in love.

   If my boyfriend was not initially attractive, I wouldn’t have started talking to him as a potential boyfriend. My boyfriend agrees that if I was attractive, then he wouldn’t have talked to me. So the attraction started the relationship but we found compatibility after we talked and hung out.

5. Poetry Angel - January 8th, 2008 at 4:15 am

   Actually it’s quite the opposite of what you said. Yes teenagers get attracted to the opposite sex. But what people don’t realize is it doesn’t take age to realize that you really care about a person. Love is love and i’m pretty sure it doesn’t take twenty years to find out what it means. You don’t have to live with someone just to find out if you’re compatible with them. It only matters if you care about the person and that you’ll accept them as they are. This is comming from a 16 year old. Shocking.

6. brenaugrl11 - January 10th, 2008 at 2:21 am

   Now that I’m out of high school and almost out of college, I can see such a huge difference between high school dating and college dating. I had my fair share of boyfriends in high school, and it was based mainly on attraction. In college it turned more into a compatible issue. Yeah you may meet a gorgeous guy, but if he bores you to tears (personal experience), you break up immediately because of the compatibility. And even though I swore that I “loved” guys in high school, looking back it wasn’t even close. I may have thought I was in love then, but looking back it wasn’t.

   It’s a maturity thing. In high school while the hormones are raging and everyone seems to be getting cuter by the day, almost everything is based on attraction with not much compatibility involved. And then enterting college, you are looking for someone attractive, but who is compatible and workse well with you, because you are now starting to look for a long term relationship or even “the One.”

7. Hunter - January 10th, 2008 at 6:30 pm

   I totally agree. When people say they “love” someone in my grade, I just roll my eyes because I know they just think they’re hot.. That’s the reason I don’t have a bf, because at 13 it’s based on attraction, and if they have a good personality, that’s like extra.
   -Hunter

8. Lolita - January 13th, 2008 at 1:02 am

   maybe that’s just because you never experienced actual love as a teen. it’s love just like any other and as I’ve said before I’m sick of this hierarchy of human emotion. we know what love is! all relationships start with attraction and develop none stand still and no one stays together based purely on attraction. just because many people change and go separate ways when they leave school doesn’t mean they weren’t in love in the first place.

   ..oh and yes i am a 17y/o who’s in love and it’s not ‘just attraction’

9. ashley - January 15th, 2008 at 9:19 pm

   umm…u r sumwhat right….but u know that depends from person to person. there are people may be in their teens who may experience real love and handle it maturely. it surely can happen coz its our attitude and thinking that makes us mature…. age is the secondary thing.
   but there is no doubt in it that most teens…a large majority of them…are just attracted by some quality of the other person. they may end up in a not-so-gud situation if they dun handle it properly.

10. minime - January 18th, 2008 at 3:12 am

    i no im in love. i would never of even looked at my bf but one of my friends told he was the most amazing dude ever and gave his # he understood me and we just clicked and became friends instantly then i saw him on the inside and we eventually went out 3 months later.size and looks dont matter when ur in love.

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