what age is appropriate to start dating?
KT asked:
I have a 12 year old step daughter, and I was just wondering what everyones views on dating were. Please state your age and your answer. Thank you!
If you could also say why you think that age is appropriate, this would help a lot thanks!
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I have a 12 year old step daughter, and I was just wondering what everyones views on dating were. Please state your age and your answer. Thank you!
If you could also say why you think that age is appropriate, this would help a lot thanks!
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June 10th, 2008 at 1:37 am
im 13 and i think a good age is 15, but my parents think 16 because thats when you can drive and things
June 11th, 2008 at 2:47 pm
I think 16 is a good age. I’m over 35
June 13th, 2008 at 12:24 am
Well, it really depends on how the kid behaves. I have friends who were dating in 5th grade. If they are getting bad grades, are rude, and inpolite, then i would say when your more mature and older. If they get pretty good grades(like As Bs and Cs) and are usually pretty polite(no 12 year old is ever going to be really extreamly polite) then i would say yes.
June 13th, 2008 at 5:53 am
41 — If the kid’s mature at 14, maybe group dating then with supervision. But dating dating? 16, and that still depends on the kid’s maturity level.
June 13th, 2008 at 10:11 am
i was 11 when i 1st started dating, lost my virginity at 11.. regret it. stopped dating till i was 13 im 14 now
June 16th, 2008 at 9:10 am
i will not let my children go on dates until they turn 16- it is more of a maturity thing in my eyes…. grant it not all 16 yr olds are mature enough to go out on dates….
i am 23 with 2 children- 6 and 1
June 16th, 2008 at 9:07 pm
I started at about 13 or 14 but nothing serious… then i started in a long term relationship after i turned 15 and was with him until i was 17… It all depends… i was very mature for my age though…
June 17th, 2008 at 5:32 pm
I’m 16. This is my moms opinion- she’s just using my account.
My mom thinks 16 is an appropriate age.
June 18th, 2008 at 4:02 pm
At fifteen with group dates only, sixteen for dating with just the two of them. I’m eighteen and dated for the first time at fourteen, I regretted the boy because he was not mature enough to even be with a girl and because of him the thought of intimacy one day has been hard to think of even years later and I’m only now learning that it is ok to be comfortable being near my now boyfriend.
June 21st, 2008 at 12:57 am
Really, I’d say 13 for a non-sexual relationship. But for sex they should wait until they are at least 18, or better yet, married.
June 21st, 2008 at 6:09 am
I am 22. I think there is appropriate levels of “dating” for each age group. 12 is a bit young, so i would say you can have friends but not boy Friends 13-14 You can go to the movies , the mall and other public places.. or GROUP activities. The boy can come over to the house for family dinners and events only. 15-17 . Same as 13-14, but more time can be given to spend with each other. The boy can come over and you can go over to their house more often as a long as their is adult supervision. Whenever your step daughter starts to show interest in boys, is when you should sit her down and explain that at her age what is appropriate. And what is not. Also explain to her the importance of sex and its consequences. Realistically she will probably have sex before 17, so it is advised to touch the subjects more as she get older. Keep an open flow of communication so when she does start to have sex she can feel open to talk to you about it, she might feel most comfortable bc your not her “mom” . This way you can help her go about it the safest way, maybe put her on BC. Good luck!:)
June 24th, 2008 at 1:53 pm
Personally I think about 16, I’m not just saying that because I’m 16. I’ve pretty much always felt this way.
Let’s think about it, 16 is the first big milestone. For example, in some countries you can drive, get married, have sex, get a job, drink, smoke etc. (I’m not saying you should be doing most of this stuff so young)
Although I honestly still do think dating is a joke between the majority of teenagers, it’s just so they can say they have a boyfriend/girlfriend and things like this, it’s not for the correct reasons. They should just forget about dating about it until they are mature enough, this could be any age! Maybe as early as 14 or as late as 19. Both people involved can be extremely immature and ignorant about the situation, if they are too young and both could get very hurt in the end.
So, it really just depends on the individual person at the end of the day but I think 16 is ok.
June 27th, 2008 at 1:56 am
I would say that actually dating- like going out with just one person- should probably wait until somewhere around 15 or 16, but there’s no harm in a 12 year old having a boyfriend who they hang out with at school functions, and maybe come over to the house (obviously when someone is home). My parents never set any exact rules on when I would be allowed to start dating, but that’s pretty much what they implied and what I went by. I had a few “boyfriends” for like a month at a time in middle school, but I really didnt start dating until 16. Of course its only my opinion, but I think this was a good to go. I never felt like my parents were too strict on me, but I also knew I couldn’t just run wild. Hope this helps. Oh, and I’m 20.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:07 am
Sixteen years old.
Twelve is much too young. I can’t even imagine an innocent little girl that age dating.
July 1st, 2008 at 6:13 am
16-18 years of age
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:10 pm
There is no age limit, could be 4 could be 80.
July 7th, 2008 at 2:10 am
If it’s supervised just holding hands and hanging out then 13-14. real dating shouldn’t begin until 16-17 and that still depends on the maturity of the child.
July 11th, 2008 at 8:05 pm
15 and i’m 13.
July 11th, 2008 at 11:26 pm
I think 14-15 is an appropriate age. They will probably do it earlier beyond your back. I’m 13.
July 13th, 2008 at 11:11 pm
Heya
Im 16 and i would say about 13 depending on how mature they are as long as you keep an eye on the relationship and make sure that you talk to your daughter about sex and relationships etc.xxx
July 15th, 2008 at 12:32 pm
Age is not the question,
I hate it when people try to set an age for this and an age for that, what is more important is the LEVEL OF MATURITY. I think that any idiot knows that some 12 year olds can behave very maturely while some 20 years old have the maturity level of an 8 year old, remember the Columbine mass-murderers, one was 18 the other 17, how about the Virgina tech, was that 12 year old? Didn’t think so
I will say that you kw your daughter’s maturity, we do not,
So
Hear is my Answer:
Talk to her, explain to her about protection and explain that dating does not need to involve a sexual relationship and if you feel that she can handle it and is mature enough, why would you not let her date. I dated a girl when I was 13.
I do not see what harm can come out of holding hands or kissing!!