What is your definition of a soul mate?

littlebee asked:


I think most would be of the understanding that a soul mate is a partner with whom you share intimate understandings of one another.
However, do you, for example believe that you can have more than one soul mate? That perhaps you can have a soul mate without having the sexual part of a relationship, for example with a friend of the same gender or a family member?

What I would like to know is what others define as a soul mate and if it is just someone who you can relate to in ever sense and vice versa and if so, do you think it is possible then to have a number of soul mates?.
What are your thoughts on this question please I am very interested. Thankyou in advance x

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13 Responses to 'What is your definition of a soul mate?'

1. MK ULTRA - June 21st, 2008 at 11:21 pm

   Someone who is your perfect match on a spiritual level

2. Hermes Trismegistus - June 26th, 2008 at 3:48 am

   My studies indicate one deosn’t want to ask for a soul mate. A soul mate could be someone you owe karma to. And they will attract you, and you will fall in love, only to get hurt.
   What we are supposed to ask for is a Twin Flame. Someone who is very much compatible with the type of person we are.
   I don’t pay much attention to immediate attractions any more. Some of these are on the elemental level. In regard to forces at work on our material level, that our spirits take in, like, two Air signs will automatically be attracted to each other.
   These forces get screwy at our level. That’s why people they say will get along don’t. And people they say won’t get along, stay together for Life.
   We are all very indvidual creatures.
   Write down all the qualities you want in a person.
   Give them a name. Say these things out loud and ask the Holy Spirit to draw that person to you.
   Do an atsrological compatibilty reading to see what your chances are with someone. It made a believer out of me.

3. Who Yah - June 26th, 2008 at 11:12 am

   This is a good question and I agree with your definition.
   Re same gender soul mates – my neighbour obviously believes this is possible. She & I became friends when my husband & I moved house three years ago. She sent me a birthday card addressed to “my soul mate”. I found this surprising. There have been quite a few similarities and co-incidences in our lives, but I would say we are basically not the same type at all. We get on well on a gossipy, going shopping level, share anxieties about our grown up children and offer each other help and advice but our outlook in every fundamental sense differs.
   I do not understand how she can think of me as her soul mate. My friend obviously believes that sex need not come into it and I agree on that point. Obviously the feeling of soul mate need not be mutual either. I think we are lucky if we find one soul mate in life but it must be possible, I think, to have more than one.
   Actually, I’m not sure I really believe in the concept at all.
   Take my husband (no, really, take him…[only joking!]). I met him in 1970. We have been described as “besotted” with each other as recently as last year! He and I have an “intimate understanding” of one another but, at the same time, we are very different in many ways and I do not think we “relate…in every sense”. We do relate in enough ways to be happy together and we try to accept each others differences.
   However, when I think about it, from when we met, through all the trials in our life and through all the joys in our life together, and now – in our fifties, kids left home and still enjoying ourselves…there has never been a time when I wished him gone and I am sure he shares this feeling. So, maybe, he and I are soul mates and I just didn’t know it!
   Great question. Got me thinking. Thankyou.

4. DAVID E - June 28th, 2008 at 12:07 pm

   My definition of a soul mate is someone who shares my values morals aspirations and sense of humour someone with whom I am in tune and can communicate with. when this happens with someone of the same gender you have a Friend for life when this happens with the the opposite sex you have an ideal partner.

5. garik - July 1st, 2008 at 7:44 pm

   I feel that a soul mate is someone you feel you connect to in a fundamental way. OK, so that’s a bit woolly: what I suppose I mean is that you feel, with almost no reservations, that you could spend eternity with that person (regardless of whether you believe in life after death). It’s not always sexual. And I do think it’s possible to have more than one.

6. kandy - July 2nd, 2008 at 10:08 am

   i think its possible to have more than 1 soul mate because people possess different qualities/personas at different times of their lives. i think that your soulmate should be someone you can relate to the most so maybe it is possible it all depends on you because the person that completes you now may not tomorow

7. Jan L - July 4th, 2008 at 9:27 pm

   A sole mate speaks to you without saying a word, they share your innermost thoughts and feelings as you do theirs.

   You can have sex with anyone, but a sole mate is more than that, it is the most intimate feeling ever just to be in the arms of the person who shares your every thought, feeling and emotion. The person you can and do share absolutely everything with. Your sole mate holds your hand through life and makes the world a wonderful place.

8. yengkof - July 6th, 2008 at 8:49 pm

   Someone that you really match with even though both are different, but together there perfect. I think is someone you share your life with and that complements you in every way like no other person.

9. jay j - July 7th, 2008 at 12:45 am

   Soul Mate: a person ideally auited 2 another as a close friend or romantic soul mate

10. and i thought my ex was bad! - July 7th, 2008 at 7:03 pm

    I have always thought of ther term “soul mate” as being related to one’s life partner in an intimate relationship. For me, this would mean that everything could go without saying. It would mean that two people are so compatible that they understand, predict, and accept each other on every level. In a perfect world, with our soul mates, life would be SO pleasant. I think two people can be opposites, or mirror each other, and find that everything gels. You asked if it could be a family member. I suppose the closest comparison I could make is the relationship between twins. They are said to have that “connection” from birth. With respect to a romantic relationship, I suppose that is the closest definition I could give. If you have a family member you consider your soul mate, I think it would be entirely different than a soul mate you have sexual relations with. I imagine you introducing that person like “Of all my family, he/she is my soul mate. We get along SO well!” Kind of a strange question but it makes me think….hmmmmm…..

11. Arthur T - July 8th, 2008 at 1:16 am

    My experience of a sole mate seems very different to my former partner, still my wife until decree nisi becomes absolute. I still see her as my wife wheras she wants me not as a husband but as her closest male friend. We are mid forties and since the conception of our 4th child who is just 8 I have endured sleeping on the sofa. Neither of us has had sex with anyone else but we have endured celibacy throughout the nearly nine years. I feel I have at least kept the family together this long and for much of it we were solemates. However call it what you may in mid 40s I do now beleive that we should both probably have had other partners simply because we change and few of us can be everything to the other. I would love for our relationship to have endured “till
    death us do part” but if one party decides the sole mate relationship is over then the other (here, me) can and probably should accept it.

12. allbut21 - July 10th, 2008 at 2:59 pm

    I have a mate who can be a bit of an arseole at times- does that count?

13. Muleman - July 11th, 2008 at 5:26 am

    Unfortunately as we get older our needs, wants and hopes and expectations sometimes change. So your trying to hit a moving target with your question!

    So I would say, A soul mate is what ever type of partner you are comfortable,excited, happy, motivated and content with today!

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