What is your definition of a successful career and marriage?

Lioness asked:

Some consider having stable job with a good dental plan, making 40K a year, a good career. Others consider making their first million and not having to work every day, a good career. Where does your definition fall? The same with marriage. And once you define them, is it possible to have both at the same time?

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11 Responses to 'What is your definition of a successful career and marriage?'

tim24601 - September 4th, 2008 at 5:01 am
comfortable and happy money is a number it means nothing being happy enjoying what you do thats more important

and i would say that you have to have both
Curious K - September 5th, 2008 at 4:00 am
When you are happy with what you have , not how much you have. But from personal experience people who are after money all the time, tend to have disfunctional families. Its good to be motivated and to know what you want, but to often it becomes about the money, especially in the relationship and people lose their love for one another.
Who really needs a million? No one, you can be fairly comfortable on much less than that.
I’m about to graduate and i do not plan on becoming a millionaire, i think if i make around 80k a year it would be enough for me to live comfortably. I’d much rather focus on personal relationships, then personal gain.

After all we come to this world with nothing and we leave with nothing, so why waste your life, energy, health, and friendships on something that doesn’t matter in a long run.
Deirdre O - September 8th, 2008 at 10:11 am
I don’t care too much about the money angle. To me having a big bank roll is vastly overated. I think balance, respect, equality and love are far more important. Funny after all the years I spent working at a job that could have been quite lucrative I have chosen to work at a less economically valued position just for job satisfaction and knowing that I am contributing to other’s wellbeing.
Jonmcn45 - September 10th, 2008 at 6:04 pm
In this life, a successful career is one that doesn’t collapse when the bankers screw up another piece of risky investing.
A successful marriage is one that withstands the ruined career caused by economic pirates.
ZEE - September 12th, 2008 at 5:34 pm
A successful career pays your bills,allows you to put something away for “rainy days” and retirement,buys your “necessities”,leaves you with some spending change and doesn’t cut into your family time.
And to top it off — you don’t ever dread going to work.

A successful marriage is a happy one.After a long day,there’s no place like home. If there are disagreements or hard times,minor or major, both sides goal is to always work through them,together.
Neither one has the desire to hurt the other in any way,physically,mentally,nor spiritually.
The husband and wife work together as a team.If there are children,they are happy and stable because they have good role models called “Mom” and “Dad”.

Yeah,it’s possible to have both.
helping hand - September 12th, 2008 at 7:51 pm
Its possible to have neither or both. For me a successful career is more about doing what you enjoy than what you make. If you are miserable making your million but happy with the 40K and the dental plan that would be the successful career. You should want to wake up everyday looking forward to what lies ahead. The same is true for marriage and relationships. It is to be mutually beneficial and a joy. It won’t always be easy but you don’t want to wake up with someone who wishes you or they were somewhere else. If only one person is happy it is an accommodation not a marriage
Char - September 13th, 2008 at 6:46 am
A successful career is one you never think of as work but rather as fulfilling and gratifying while providing you the means to live.
A successful marriage is a real union of two people who have so much respect for one another that they consider the other when making any decisions and are willing to compromise or yield to the other in the case of disagreements. Loving and supporting each other through bad and good times, making the bad times less painful and the good times overwhelmingly happy.
I think you need to prioritize your energies toward having the good marriage in order to have a successful life. The career might suffer but you’ll be happier.
C.
afraidofamericans - September 14th, 2008 at 12:32 pm
Happiness. It comes when we serve others, in personal and public life. Only when we forget about ourselves.
hala L - September 17th, 2008 at 4:35 am
Successful career to me is one that leaves me plenty of time for family and other pursuits, makes enough money to live comfortably and is something I enjoy enough to not dread the hours spent doing it.
Successful marriage is one in which we both have trust and confidence in the other and are happy of course. Also it’s one in which alot of time is spent together and where there are common interests and goals.
Can both people have successful careers and a successful marriage? I don’t know.
x Char x - September 20th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
A successful career to me is one that makes a difference, that allows me to contribute to change in some way, however small. My career has to be emotionally and spiritually rewarding, not just to me but to others too. Of course it has to provide an income, but there are many ways to make money. To make a job into a career, there must be something else.
I see a successful marriage as one that fulfills the needs of both people, and aims to enhance rather than diminish confidence. It’s based on openness and trust, and the desire to create a future together.
Balancing the different parts of your life comes more naturally to some than to others, and it won’t necessarily be easy, but if you aspire to have both then I think it is possible.
Meagan - September 21st, 2008 at 8:51 am
A successful career is one in which you are doing what you love while making enough money to pay the bills. If you don’t love what you do, it’s just a job.

A successful marriage is one in which both people are happy, and they mutually benefit each other’s lives. I think that it is possible to have a successful marriage AND a successful career at the same time, as long as the main focus is on the marriage.