What is your idea of a perfect soul mate or bf or hubby for you?

TruthFinder31 asked:

Holy grail question here, just be honest,, i want the whole thing,,such as

1)money
2)looks
3)beleifs
4)moral values
5)character
6)sex
7)religion
8)race
9)family
10)kids
11)enjoyment
12) every other things you can add

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22 Responses to 'What is your idea of a perfect soul mate or bf or hubby for you?'

nana - July 5th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
money,good look,great sex and more money!!!
JustMe - July 7th, 2008 at 10:29 am
Not really someone perfect because that one doesn’t exist. But I would live with someone who is

1. Faithful and honest – has intergrity (character & morals)
2. Family, kids
3. Fun
4. Looks & money are last, but not least important – esp looks
Preston'smama - July 11th, 2008 at 7:33 pm
I don’t think it comes down to any specific thing– if they are, they are, if they’re not, they’re not. The things you think you want in a person may go out the door when you meet the man/woman of your dreams.
patrick o - July 12th, 2008 at 7:50 pm
interesting to see that you have given us the answer and i assume this question is directed solely at women whose priorities are,in order,height,nice sex and smile,d.i.y skills,good chat,driver,money,job and this all set against whatever load of rubbish they happen to subcribe to
Chaquayle P - July 14th, 2008 at 3:53 am
Well what is your type? How do that person make you feel?
Does that person keep you satisfied? Can you see that person with you forever or for a long time? If you ask me My soul mate would be to keep me happy,make me feel good,and treat me good and make me feel special.
babygirl - July 17th, 2008 at 5:16 am
Someone who makes you laugh and understands what you are going through (good or bad).

Don’t have to have a lot of money, but must be ambitious.
sashali - July 20th, 2008 at 12:56 am
My ranking of the perfect soul mate:

1. Moral values and Character
2. Intellect, the smarter the better, without the snobbery
3. Enjoyment, sense of humor, loves to laugh
4. Employed and responsible, not necessairly rich
5. Energetic, with a strong zest for adventure in life.
6. Loves sex with me only.
7. Healthy and not overweight
8. Must have same political and spiritual beliefs as I do.
9. MOST IMPORTANT: IS MY BEST FRIEND
10. Been married before, kids ok, but grown at our age please.
11. The looks will come if he fits all of the above.
dances_with_unicorns1955 - July 23rd, 2008 at 6:37 am
For me:

1) Intelligent
2) Upbeat
3) Confidence
4) Good sense of humor and ability to laugh at oneself
5) Honest; strength of character in general.
6) Caring
7) Gentle Strong sex drive
9) Interests in something besides work
10) Adventurous, and unwilling to be stuck in a rut for safety’s sake

That’s my “wish list” – although the items aren’t all necessarily in the order I put them. Maybe some day I’ll find him
arctic_vixen1980 - July 23rd, 2008 at 4:22 pm
I didn’t answer all them some weren’t sure what to say.

It doesn’t bother me if he’s rich or poor but would like a guy who has a job not someone who can’t be bothered to work and sits on their arse.
Looks: I think personality is more important but look come in to it a bit I think. When you meet someone for the first time their looks are the first thing you notice. Sometimes when you are attracted to someones personality they also start to appear more attractive on the outside. I like nice smiles, eye brows, hands, hair etc.
Would like a guy who is kind hearted, honest, respectful, loving, understanding, makes time for me, common sense, open minded, funny, makes me laugh etc.
I’m not bothered about his religion or none religion as long as he can accept me as I am and doesn’t try to convert me.
Not bothered about his race.
Enjoyment be able to have fun and good laugh with him, be able to go to nice places together, spend time together etc.
isobelmyself - July 25th, 2008 at 11:27 am
Don’t go for perfect it does not exist. Compatible and comfortable is what I have. Which involves trust, honesty, responsible, humor, reliable, and love. And great sex of course. Which you need trust and love for.
Glo* - July 25th, 2008 at 5:39 pm
Someone who holds basically the same values, beliefs, ideas regarding the important things in life… And can deal with my personality, it is very strong… If I break it down to every point in your question it would go like this… Having a great deal of money, not important, I can take care of myself. But he must be gainfully employed. Physical appearance, not so important. Beliefs of-course they must be in-line with my own. Moral values the same. Character “very important” lack of character is not a good quality to possess. Sex, very important. Religion, not so important what religion, however must have some spiritual foundation ( I have respect for all religions) Race, I only recognize the human race. Family, must value family. Children is that not part of family? Environment this is very broad, (healthy). One thing I would add is integrity, a man must possess integrity. And of course last but not least. He must possess a very strong personality and have the strength to deal with mine… Great question. God bless****
ecogeek4ever - July 28th, 2008 at 3:57 pm
Money – doesn’t matter much as long as he has a job that he likes.
Looks – doesn’t matter I don’t have a “type” that I go for.
Beliefs – Liberal views would be nice but they are not necessary, however, he would have to be open minded and tolerant of other peoples beliefs.
Moral Values – respectful of others.
Character – Kind, caring, and strong
Sex – He would have to believe in monogamy
Religion – doesn’t matter as long as he is tolerant of others beliefs
Race – Doesn’t matter
Family – I would prefer someone who has a healthy relationship with his parents.
Kids – He would have to like kids, be nice to kids and want to have some of his own.
Enjoyment – Able to have fun doing a variety of things within the relationship as well as have a passion for something outside of the relationship.
Sense of humor, laughing and playing is so important
jo v - July 29th, 2008 at 1:55 pm
understanding
good sense of humor
sense of adventure
ambition
sex
and I suppose i bit of good looks wouldn’t matter either.
Kate - July 31st, 2008 at 11:52 pm
1. Money: enough to get by.
2. Looks: frail and poetic.
3. Beliefs: sense and reason
4. Moral values: golden rule
5. Character: honesty and integrity
6. Sex: as much as humanely possible please?
7. Religion: as little as humanely possible, please. Atheists are preferred.
8. Race: no preference
9. Family: as lovably insane as mine
10. Kids: he might want them eventually.
11. Enjoyment: theatre, philosophy, chess (all the intellectual stuff)
Deirdre O - August 3rd, 2008 at 10:38 am
Character, integrity, sense of humour, moral values, dreams, spiritual beliefs, goals.
Looks fade, money means nothing, you cannot make yourself happy from outside sources. Serenity is from within and my husband is my ultimate soulmate. Poor or rich I would stay by his side. His looks mean nothing to me just the sound of his voice and the touch of his hand.
Mafiagirl - August 6th, 2008 at 10:25 am
I want

security

a bit of good looks to match with me

Christian values

a virgin if so coz I am one

Good hearted

Loyal

Family and yeah kids

I would love to have great family gettogethers with his and my family

Morals yeah ethics yeah

He should be a one woman man

Race is okay as long as he has a great rep and a great name. But I do prefer fair men to the dark ones coz thats my ideal kinda preference

He can be introverted or extroverted as long as he is what he is….

He should treat a woman like a lady

and someone with high standarads, intelligent and who can talk about anything if he has too!!

Thats it.
willow - August 8th, 2008 at 10:41 am
I would have to find him attractive, he would need a good sense of humour, but also a serious side when needed. Fond of animals and nature, open minded, strong but gentle, ambition and drive, good with his hands, looking forward to having children, sensitive, affectionate, generous and about 6 foot would be nice
Rio Madeira - August 9th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
My perfect soulmate? The nonexistent kind.
?Girly McFemale? - August 11th, 2008 at 8:29 am
1)money> Never mattered to me, still doesn’t, all I care about is that he’s able to provide for himself enough to not get evicted or have the IRS hunting him down (lol, believe it or not I’ve dated guys with those issues, so while I’d love to say money doesn’t matter at all, in those extreme cases, it does)
2)looks> I’ve always had a thing for the bad boys, lol y’know, long hair, tattoos, plays an instrument or rides a chopper, lmao I’m such a stereotype!)
3) Beliefs> Honestly? I don’t care, It’s nice to be with someone who believes exactly the way you do, but its boring too, to me, I find in relationships, being with people who believe in exactly the opposite as what I believe, help me to strengthen my own beliefs and learn to respect others viewpoints (ha ha unless you want knock-down-drag-out fights all the time)
4)moral values> I hate that phrase(for the record) Honesty is the best policy, and ye harm none do what ye will.
5)character> See above
6)sex> Essential, has to be compatible, I prefer an affectionate lover who isn’t necessarily selfish in bed and who can experience the emotional connection occurring.
7)religion> Doesn’t matter, same as beliefs
8)race> doesn’t matter although I tend to date Caucasian, Hispanic and Native American men, but that’s just how its happened, I don’t seek out one race over another
9)family>Doesn’t matter as long as they are at least respectful to their family, nothing is a bigger red flag than a man who’s an as$ to his family
10)kids> I personally prefer to date men who don’t have children, baby’s mama drama lol
11)enjoyment> umm, dunno what your trying to say with this one, I must enjoy them and they must enjoy me if that’s what you mean
12) every other things you can add> A guy with a conscience is important, and a man who respects me and in turn also requires respect, good self-esteem, and spontaneous I’m big on “let’s get up and GO!” so spontaneity is a must! Ooh and funny too, I hinted at the instrument thing (guitar players are oh so sexy yum ) but I really need to know that someone I am with is somehow artistically inclined, be it through writing, music, painting etc. Artistic souls definitely always suited me best.

so there’s my “holy grail” lol good luck
Raziel - August 13th, 2008 at 8:11 am
You can’t tell. You should instinctively know without question.
I had many ideas of how i wanted my soul mate to be but in reality he turned out to be better than i ever expected.
Caz - August 14th, 2008 at 3:22 am
I wholly agree with Prestons mama! Well done hun! Of course you cant write a list of what you want in a SOUL-mate!!! When you find one, all those things either dont really matter or fall into place anyway. Its the feeling between two people that makes for soul-mates not what you can get from one another!!! Im astounded at some of these answers!
abafna - August 14th, 2008 at 10:09 am
money is not a big problem fro me i don’t want millions but enough to feed my family,
looks ok not a big issue
belief she must be pure vegetarian
moral values is must as we live in a society
religion doesn’t matter till she is pure vegetarian
what is race ?
we already are happy married family so i don’t want more sorry but my my wife is one of the best friend with whom i share all my sorrows and happines what else i want.